So basically I’m 23 years old and I’m a male, I am currently staying over at my grandmother’s house Because my family just moved out of our old house and we’re kinda like in different places right now so I’m staying with her for the “temporary foreseeable future.” Thing is, when I was at my old home, I engaged in self pleasure (masturbation) pretty much every day with no problem. Now I’m in her guest room, and there’s family photos EVERYWHERE, like not just adults but mainly her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren as well. And I knew the layout of the room before I moved in and knew it was gonna be an awkward issue. Last night I ended up doing it with the lights off. And I was just watching XXX content on my phone, and I was trying to remained focused on my phone but it was just like the awkwardness of the whole thing and me knowing there were pictures of children in there the whole time. I only like a couple of times looked at my surroundings and the walls around me during the moment just…because I tend to look around when I’m already weirded out. I ended finishing. But I was wondering has anyone else been through this same situation and do you think this makes me weird. Any advice helps.

  • cryptTurtle@piefed.socialEnglish
    2·
    13 hours ago

    I didn’t even need to finish reading to know you’re over thinking it. It’s normal to feel awkward doing stuff like that in a situation like that. Just breathe. It’ll probably take time for the house to start to feel normal

  • Miller@lemmy.world
    12·
    20 hours ago

    I honestly thought this was going to be the joke that when you turned the lights back on there was a cup of tea left on the bedside table.

  • BertramDitore@lemmy.zipEnglish
    15·
    22 hours ago

    I think you’re overthinking it, but it doesn’t make you weird IMO. In all likelihood, everyone in those photos has done what you’re doing. There is absolutely no shame in masturbating, it’s completely normal and natural. As long as you’re doing it in private or with other consenting adults, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

    I’m not sure how to get you past the mental block of doing it around photos of family members, I honestly have never considered that, but just know what you’re doing is completely acceptable and not something to be embarrassed about.

  • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    15 hours ago

    It’s ok to feel awkward about it. Even if you are “overthinking”, it’s a perfectly valid reaction to the scenario. It would make a good number of people out there uncomfortable.

    I can’t masturbate so I don’t have a ton of advice, but I think the shower is going to be your best option like others say.

  • NathanDerWeise@feddit.orgEnglish
    11·
    15 hours ago
    1. Use your phone to take overview pictures of where the photos are located.
    2. Put all the photos in a drawer
    3. When you are ready to move out, use the photos from step 1 to put everything back where it was.
    • lriv724@discuss.onlineOP
      2·
      15 hours ago

      That Would be a good idea, the only thing about it is, though I don’t think it would likely happen while I’m inside, she could technically walk in anytime she wanted to, Recently, she talked about moving some storage out of the closet space to give me more room, so that’s another thing that she might try to do as well.