I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
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    11 days ago

    It probably doesn’t help that I’m incredibly irreverent of pretty much everything. I got really into western esoteric spirituality this past year (its really been helping me with introspection and integrating my personality in ways that neither secular therapy or my fundie upbringing ever quite fully did on their own) but at the same time I refuse to take any religion seriously, especially not my own.

    Anyway someone in a related community got upset at me for having my irreverent attitude because I was “culturally appropriating” tarot cards from PoC and like dude. Look up where that shit is from its Northern Italy where my family is from just two generations ago they were fresh off the boat when the War was starting. You’re appropriating tarot from me. And if you want to get into the specific spiritual / divinatory usage that’s even fucking whiter. The closest you’re gonna get to claiming cultural appropriation is if you go all the way back before the tarot to the mummy dust the hermetic order of the golden dawn were probably mixing into the coke they were snorting while making that shit the fuck up.

    People just wanna be mad about shit and at this point I really don’t have the energy to spend appeasing people who have already decided to be mad at me. Imma just be over here using these cards to let my subconscious tell me which level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs I fucked up this week.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
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    11 days ago

    I’m pretty apathetic to gender in general but I’ve had gender confirming surgery to be NB which I guess technically makes me trans and to be prefectly honest I’ve never felt more judged for it than by the lemmy LGBTQ+ community. The 50y/o southern man that was my nursing supervisor back when I was a new graduate was more respectful of my gender and lived experiences than these people. Honestly the thing they seem to hate most is specifically me expressing apathy for gender; I’ve mentioned that my transness expresses itself by not caring about the whole pronoun thing or needing to have any specific pronouns for myself personally, but that I understand it’s a matter of respect for others and I’ve literally gotten banned for saying that. Like almost exactly that. They’re absolutely hateful bastards for no reason other than that they’re upset and need everybody else to be upset too. I’m lucky I have a handful of supportive people irl because I sure asf wasn’t gonna find it here!

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstopolitics @lemmy.world•Trump Campaign Closed Down McDonald’s for Staged Fry Cook Stunt, Store Not Open Per Owner’s Letter
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    13 days ago

    Well you don’t want food service workers wearing gloves for the most part. Nonsterile gloves protect the wearer much more than anything they’re touching and food should be the opposite of chemically unsafe to touch. Gloves can also undermine a focus on or even specifically discourage regular handwashing which is what actually keeps food and food prep equipment clean / sanitary. Unless you have cuts, sores, warts or some other infection on your hands, gloves are the least helpful solution to keeping food sanitary.

    That said, I doubt he washes his hands adequately and the whole hairnet thing is gross AF, especially with that glued-on dead animal he calls hair.

    I just get feisty about the gloves thing because I remember during the pandemic when my hospital was struggling to keep gloves in stock for us to handle blood and bodily fluids with, and one day in an urgent care I saw a patient in the waiting room wearing gloves reach up and run his gloved hands through his hair. I almost just screamed at him. They’re not magic clean hand socks you have to use them properly and in the right situations.