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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • I don’t think I need to be fair to these folks who have neither a worry or a care of the consequences of their actions. However, it is already more than generous to mock someone who makes a healthcare decision en masse based upon the stated reasons. Mocking ridiculous statements is the minimum. And honestly, we already know how the exceptions are playing out in states with 6-week bans. How would you like to be on deaths door before reviving care because biology wasn’t your side? Or just allowed to die because you lack the resources to flee reprehensible policy? Yeah, I was already being overly generous. Thank you though.



  • Hmm. I work in a high stress field. As in, behavioral modification. I get hit a lot. It does impact me over time. So what I do to manage my emotions is taking the time to take it easy on myself. I make that space. One hour after work every day (not counting the drive) where I am just alone with my thoughts and doomscrolling before I let anyone else place any demands on me (myself included). You sound a little bit like me before I burned out originally a few years ago and put some boundaries in place where self-care is concerned. That one hour did wonders.







  • Situational.

    First, if it’s directed at me, I do not engage. Like, at all. If someone is trying to get my attention with shitty behavior, they’re not getting it. If it’s the guy on my discord meme channel who posts incel memes, I really have do have to remind myself not to engage. That one is harder, because I feel like they’re taking away from the quality of the space, I don’t want them in my orbit AT ALL, but they are part of the greater community, and this channel sort of quarantines their brain vomit. So again, I never engage with them, but I deliberately engage with other posters and community members who are productive and positive. In the short term, it’s not rewarding, but in the long term I do feel much better about myself. And finally, sometimes I really do need to step away–maybe it’s into another game, another community, etc. Sometimes I do need to take a break, seek other forms of entertainment and reinforcement. The main thing is not to continuously expose yourself to things that are aversive to you and just stress and stress. You have to break it somehow.