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What models are you suggesting we use that are making these good decisions?

You’re using a lot of very general language throughout this thread. We need some elaboration. Otherwise it’s just “we should be logical and stuff.”

It’s not so much choosing the practical over the idealistic as it is about not preconceiving notions of success that are unrealistic and - more importantly - Would not necessarily bring about the results you want anyway.

Remember the entire reason for having any sort of rules in your home is to establish a certain culture and value system. Banning your kid from watching TV is not going to create a healthy relationship with TV, in my opinion. Instead, you have to put in the work and watch stuff with them. Be aware of the programming that is out there. Be knowledgeable and available for when your kid has questions. Fostering a better understanding of media while creating a safe corner for your kids to process things that maybe are more difficult will probably lead to better results.

Everyone is different, but that is how I personally view it. It’s not about making sure my kids don’t watch too much TV. It’s about the role that TV plays in their lives and my relationship with them.

And on a simpler level: it’s not just about the TV. It’s also about what’s on it. Shows like Bluey are fantastic programming for the whole family.

It also often makes people prone to establishing rules and lines in the sand that they’ll never adhere to because they underestimate the will and ingenuity of young humans lol

My kids are still too young (not even 5 yet) but we’ve decided it’ll be largely up to their peers. They won’t be first, but we aren’t setting up an arbitrary age. We have been working on their relationship with screens and we just have to hope we do a good enough job. Once they have them we’ll undoubtedly limit the hours per day/week and I’ll put some restrictions on what they can do with them, but they’re always used to “daddy tv” (my server) so I’m less worried about the specifics and more focused on keeping the relationship healthy and transparent with us.

Edit: that second phone concept someone talked about here is excellent. I might borrow that.

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I wrote a more thorough response explaining why they are getting the reaction they are. I don’t disagree with you about most of their post. But delete, disable, whatever you wanna call it. We all know what they’re asking and it’s reasonable.

It is kind of wild how even with how much experience many of us have online and on forums, with all that we know about the social behaviors it brings out, we can still get kind of nasty anyway.

I appreciate your hearing me out. I could probably follow your example more often on that front haha

I don’t think they assumed that would be the case, in fact, I don’t think they made any particular assumptions here. Hence why they asked the question: “is it possible?” It’s also probably beneath you to attack someone’s intellect like that just for asking a question on a community dedicated to asking questions.

Most websites have some sort of account deletion/disable feature with varying degrees of thoroughness. You’re acting like this person is asking for the impossible or unreasonable, and I don’t really know why.

I know you’re going to feel like this thread validates how you’re feeling, but I do encourage you to look at it from our point of view: wanting to delete your account for your own mental health/because you aren’t enjoying this site is valid. Nobody can force you to stay or like this place. But a lot of this post seems more like you wanted to soapbox about your concerns under the guise of “help me delete my account.”

Given your title is pretty straightforward and asking for a technical solution, a lot of people are going to come in here out of curiosity or out of a desire to help you. So imagine their reaction when 3/4 of the post is not exactly a manifesto, but certainly a lengthy indictment of sorts that is squarely directed at us, the community, as the problem. We also don’t have context for who or what you’re upset about besides “politics.”

Lines like this one are unproductive and actively poking the bear if your goal is positivity and productive interactions:

Of course, a lot of people will disagree with this approach, and they are likely already coming up with comments to post on this thread that I’d find rude and thus negative. But I’ve seriously had enough of it.

I’m sure there are things in here we all need to hear. And yes, unfortunately Internet forums tend to bring out a little more negativity in people. I am certainly guilty of that at times. But I do urge you to consider what your reaction would be if you stumbled across a post like this yourself.

Also given the number of us who came here because of Reddit’s terrible management and utter disdain for their own users, throwing out that you are leaving here for Reddit is not exactly going to engender sympathy. Especially if your primary concern is quality of conversation, negativity, and politics showing up in every thread.

I get wanting to delete old accounts before leaving sites. That’s not really unreasonable.

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If y’all truly think that most “doomers” are literally sitting around waiting to die and that this article is required to “call them out” then you’re just tilting at windmills and not casting blame at the people who are the actual problem.

Congratulations, these are wonderful achievements. A lot of us are doing what we can. Just because we haven’t done everything you have done doesn’t mean we aren’t trying.

“Doomers” don’t think there is literally no way to stop it. They generally think that the people who can pull the lever will continue not to do so because they’ve resisted it for decades. It’s lack of faith in our collective will and dedication to action, not that there is no course of action that can stop it.

I can’t blame them. I still advocate for change and work towards it, but they’re not the problem. It’s climate change deniers and politicians who refuse to do anything about it.

Blame is being misdirected here as usual. Which contributes to why people are “doomers.”

What a thoughtful and informative response. Thank you for this!