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Almost always digital on my tablet or phone these days (I have a Kindle too but just can’t get used to the display), but I’ll buy physical copies to keep and/or give away if I really like them.

…there’s an “AITA” bot

That’s ridiculous. Wonder if there’s a r/roastme bot somewhere.

nods I used to sleep with the door shut and locked, and the home alarm on whenever I was out. That’s no longer true ever since the queen demanded that I do neither.

Your comment put a smile on my face. “Growing up” is such a huge lie isn’t it? I don’t remember ever crossing a line where I suddenly become an adult and stop being the child I was being crossing the line.

Are you (or were you) super into finances?

I am, or was, I don’t know anymore. But mostly to survive rather than wanting to be rich and successful. I’m free spirited by nature but circumstances made me this way. All my loved ones, while being great in many things, totally suck in managing their finances. It’s up to me to constantly watch over everything like a hawk so I won’t have to keep cleaning up their mess.

I think the grind culture as mentioned in comment below applies to most people though, not just those who are really into finances. We’re all driven by the fear of not being able to put food on the table, of falling sick and becoming a burden to our families.

I’m now in a pretty comfortable spot where I can just work part time and still pay off the loans comfortably. Maybe even retire a little earlier. But getting here has really taken its toll. Don’t get me wrong though, I’d still do the same even if I was given a second chance; not for myself but for my loved ones. But I’ll go through everything again with a different attitude, enjoy the journey more, have fewer expectations and be a little kinder to myself and others.

I knew something was wrong when I first noticed that I was feeling anxious for wanting to do something that I enjoy, and that the anxiety has been slowly killing off all of my interests. I’m so calculative that in order to prevent wasting 2hrs of my life watching a movie I wouldn’t enjoy, I’d spend hours browsing through the whole catalogue and going on IMDB to check out the rating for every single movie, then bookmark them and end up watching nothing.

The same thing for Spotify. Never happy with my choice of song. But when a good song comes up on the radio, I totally enjoy it.

I miss being spontaneous and going with the flow, and I’m working on “going back” like you too, by reminding myself to be contented and live more in the moment.

That’s a good piece of advice. I went from being a carefree teenager to a highly “efficient” grown-up who’s always asking how I can get more by doing less. I mean, that are obviously perks in setting goals and being time and money savvy, but in the process I’ve lost the child in me – the child who wonders and has multiple hobbies. I couldn’t even sit down to play a game without feeling like I was wasting my life away.

So yeah, like you say, fulfilling one’s responsibilities is important, but don’t go crazy chasing after the next shiny thing. It’s perfectly fine to want to do nothing and just enjoy ourselves sometime.

The basics should already be there for any decent websites. There really isn’t that much to do for internal stuff apart from having a logical site structure and naming convention, with neat codes and good UI. Keyword stuffing and other blackhat tricks stopped working ages ago.

Linking is as organic as it can get for something like Lemmy, as long as we keep generating content and mentioning it on other websites(e.g. other instances and Reddit).

I guess we could do our part by linking more and naming the anchors accurately and how we would actually Google them. Some examples:

• Reddit alternatives
• Best password managers
• Which linux distribution to use

Every time we do this we contribute in building backlinks for Lemmy, but from what I see we already ain’t doing too bad! That password manager thread was just posted yesterday and already it’s the first result I get when I googled “best password managers lemmy”.

I used to do a lot of SEO and run AdWords campaigns for smaller businesses back in the early days and they were always the norm. If anything Google has been constantly tweaking its algorithm to make it harder for non-organic SEO.

Something as huge as Lemmy that grows organically doesn’t even have to worry about SEO. The problem is that the Fediverse being so spread out is a nightmare for Google spiders to crawl and rank.

Tthe sea of most upvoted content in r/all always come from the same handful of subs anyway. I don’t miss that one bit at all, but I do worry about my Google results showing empty Reddit links when I’m looking for reviews and answers about some niche products. Reddit is seriously the only place I trust in finding genuine reviews.