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Cake day: November 30th, 2025

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  • I understand as much as any guy can how shitty everything you said is, and it wish the world wasn’t such that those choices had to be made every day by far too many women, but let’s not pretend that this was some defining aspect of her as a woman. This was someone doing a job in an uncontrolled environment without proper safety measures. No, that doesn’t make her at fault for being raped, just like it wouldn’t be her fault if one of the signs slipped and injured her when she was by herself trying to repair it. The risks could still have been reduced if she had considered the safety aspects of the task, which includes the people in the area where she was working. Would you have been as accepting if it had been one of her team who had been raped instead in the same circumstances? Would you have been lauding her bravery and vision by empowering one of her team to do the same thing? Or would you be saying she should have thought of the safety of the people working for her? What if the candidate had been a man and his employee got raped in a parking lot at 2 AM? It was a poor choice, possibly one she didn’t consider, or didn’t consider as much as she would have for one of her staff. And again, with all that said, the rapist is completely responsible for his shitty actions.




  • I’m not excusing rapists’ shitty behavior, but, as you said, this is far more prevalent than many of us would like. Not accepting that fact and taking steps to reduce the risk is a poor choice. I don’t turn my back on a dog I don’t know, and a woman driving around by herself and getting out of her car in the middle of the night in unpopulated areas is leaving herself at risk as a target of opportunity or even a planned attack.

    Again, not saying this is okay or the way things should be, but is a realistic view of the world we live in. The talk about clothes or behavior, though (beyond that which exposes you to risk), is completely beside the point. Predators will attack targets. Stop the predators. Don’t be an easy target. Both of those should be done, but only one can reasonably be done on an individual basis.

    And no, none of that makes this in any way her fault. That rests squarely on her attackers.


  • Lemmy and Piefed both support tags now, I think. I’m pretty simple with how I rate people. I give red, yellow, or green tags based on how toxic their opinion is, and text summarizing the flag, eg., I just tagged minorkeys with red and “Hardcore Rape Apologist”. If you tap and hold the user name of a comment in Voyager, it also links the comment you did that to, which is a good way to remind yourself why you tagged someone.

    This allows you to still see shitty people’s shitty comments, and skip over or respond, however you decide.