Oh! I didnt know that was OS only! Thanks for lmk!

Additional question: wouldn’t it be cool to have a place where you can only get open source stuff? Obviously there needs to be more to it than this fact i presume but its a start.

Thanks for adding your experience! And congrats! You‘re a champ.

Thanks for elaborating a bit. I opted against the password app since I wanted to diversify services. My nextcloud is a bit finnicky at times and wants to be updated before you can proceed with stuff. Having no access to my passwords in that moment would be harsh. So I opted for vaultwarden and it even has firefox integration, cli integration and a desktop app for linux (dunno about windows, honestly). I‘m not sure if it was a bad idea to put NC‘s database on spinning discs though. Maybe that was stupid.

As you can see, very much a WIP as well. I feel like we need some kind of place to accumulate iCloud -> NC expats. A lot of good could be done there.

I‘m on matrix as well but i‘m not proficient yet. My wife is still on whatsapp so I need to be patient. We have gotten rid of twitter and reddit which I count as a win.

What other projects do you have? Feel free to send me a dm with your matrix username if you want to keep in touch about this.

I‘m also migrating from iCloud (to NC among other things) and its been slow to say the least. Things I struggle with:

• setting up photo alternative with face recognition (recognition app is okayish but not as strong as I‘d like)
• getting whatsapp to somehow backup outside of iCloud
• getting my passwords out of iCloud (you need a mac for that) into vaultwarden
• NC being quite slow now that a couple apps and mid 5 digits of photos are in there, will try memcache soonish

For those who don’t know NC, these things are 1/10 of the stuff that NC is actually good at imo.

How is your experience so far?

Reading the comments is both depressing and uplifting.

Depressing because so many people were in bad shape at some point but uplifting because so many got out and/or are on the way up. Congrats folks!

I never viewed myself as an addict although I have autism and have an obsessive streak = I like to form heavy routines that are not often healthy.

Gave up drinking entirely 6 yrs ago since I was in a bas situation and was drinking a beer every day and it started bothering me. I quit smoking hookah about 2 months ago but I still tell myself its a pause since thats easier for me. I did the same with alcohol.

„Taking a break“ is what worked for me since my mind can’t tell me that I wont make it since there is nothing to „make“. I‘m just taking a break (which now lasts 6 yrs in the case of alcohol). It could have something to do with demand avoidance which can be a problem for autistic people (and others?).

Thanks for reading my ramble and have a nice day.

It’s hilarious. Reminds me of some people I‘ve met. „Strange“ is pretty accurate. :)

Thats pretty funny! :)

That gave me a chuckle. I‘d probably work with you. :)

There is. It’s just hard to find.

Nextcloud (or docker for that matter) are rather complex.

Permission problems are every day life in linux, you always have to sudo or - if you change that - someone else can vaporize your server and steal all your data. Linux is infinitely more secure because it is a nightmare to use casually with a complex setup. Some windows script kiddie is gonna die inside your directories and never be found again.

Writing a script that you need to make executable first? Chowning files that are made by docker? Having to use a specific user inside docker (in case of nextcloud especially)?

All these things are incredibly frustrating but given the sheer complexity of nextcloud, it’s actually working rather good imo. So does linux.

I‘m not shitting on linux, docker or nc. I love them all but saying they’re not working just says they’re not plug and play yet. Other examples: most things snap are a mystery for me. Freakin permissions.

I appreciate the question.

As someone else pointed out, dbt is quite helpful if someone never learned to cope and receives trauma/stumbles in life. This helped me a lot.

Additionally, it was my own curiosity and drivenness.

Watching and reading for countless hours and actively being aware of similarities to stereotypes helped me get a feel for situation.

Then learning about things I suspected I might be struggling with, then pointing therapists and psychiatrists in the direction until they either confirmed or denied it with evidence backing it up.

This led to a very tailored diagnosis and therapy which now helps me feel more in control than I‘ve ever been in my life (I never thought I lacked control until I found out how little I had).

Being allowed and accepted in my way of existing has changed practically everything. It even showed me that I‘m lucky to be alive since my condition, combined with mx childhood usually spells doom.

It’s still a ton to think about and a burden of sorts but it’s no comparison to the self doubt I had before without realizing.

TL;DR: I think the best therapy is enabled by a thorough diagnosis, fueled by an interested patient.

Disclaimer: Obviously I‘m talking about actual science allthough it can be frustrating. Fringe science and esoterics provide easy and comforting answers but it is not the way imo.

I hope this helps.

We found the conservative

Well, since I don’t need a lot in life, I‘d keep a mil to invest and mostly live off the dividends. Maybe two if everything sucks.

The rest goes to educating youth. It’s literally the key to curing cancer, colonizing mars and eradicating inequality and fascism.

Have a good day.

German intellectual here. I and others have been severely beaten, harassed and fired on multiple occasions for being intellectual.

Pointing out a flaw in someones plan, finding errors in reports (that are actually important to its findings) and other work related things.

It very much depends what region in germany and what class you‘re born into. If you‘re vastly different from your surroundings, you‘re in for a bad trip.

The first one is actually very funny, until you start reading between the lines.

I had to look up „virtue signaling“ because I‘m old.

This was the best explanation I found: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAmM872874A

As someone who has years of therapy experience for things I shouldn’t talk unsolicited about: therapists absolutely help most of the time. But one big problem is pathologizing things.

A lot of people fit the criteria for mental disorders in their adolescence. Thats why certain disorders are not diagnosed until they are 18 (probably country specific as well).

That is why, while you are correct that it’s a possibility, it is not the only one and depends on many factors we as non professionals can not see.

Not sure op should directly be advised to seek help. We don’t even know (or I overlooked) who they are talking about.

People fall in love with their friends, have a crush on classmates (and misjudge that). Depending on age the person just needs to learn. I actually had that situation at the age of 14. Didn’t go anywhere.

Have a good one.

Thanks. I find the gall of some people surprising. Thats why I always use „hide my email“ and some random names for things that I don’t intend on using like one time signups for whitepapers. These people are indoctrinated to put money over people. You wont change them but you can just act in bad faith as they do.