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I hope you get better soon.

I use ionos since 10 years and I‘m very happy, but only for webhosting stuff. The VPS Services I get from Hetzner and I havent really tested them.

I did have a meeting with IONOS this week though about it and I‘m positive about the UI for new vps owners since its quite easy to grasp but I dont think they’re a better option than hetzner.

I‘m currently trying to bring up a rather complicated setup using garage. Garage on Homeserver behind firewall, vpn relay, peertube and other s3 compatible services on a vps. Garage works rather weill, the vpn is giving me a hard time though. Can recommend.

Solid take.

Having as much on one machine as possible has efficiency and maintenance benefits since you have less machines to configure. The drawback is that multiple services can add up peak demands and run the machine oom which you can either solve by leaving extra headroom or make them redundant imo.

Someone with more experience than me might have other ideas to add.

As someone with diagnosed mental health issues, I can tell you that I mean no harm. But sadly, the pure difference in perception paired with unfamiliarity of the two parties makes the situation insanely dangerous, not the person.

You never know why the person is in this predicament and if they have a tendency towards violence, robbery or other things. I‘m not saying they are. I‘m saying you have to assume they are before making that decision. Can you defend yourself against a pulled knife or even gun, do you have enough mental capacity to observe them at all times. Those odds do not look good.

So, although I would never willingly look down on folks less fortunate than myself. I too will never ever let a stranger into my house if they raise any concerns.

Dont buy stuff from amazon. Its like „have you seen that guy lucifer? He sells the greatest stuff for cheap!“ what could go wrong…

It makes no sense to switch from either to the other imo. It would make sense to switch to mobile linux for those who are tech savvy and once it is more polished, the others.

It really doesnt matter much imo. The obvious best choice here would be three copies on three media in three locations. You can also argue for more. It depends on your threat model. If you have an offsite backup that is reachable from the host machine, a ransomware attack can still devastate you. I have therefore made deaddrops for backups so no machine or user has access to all of them.

My general rule with backups is the standard you pretty much hear everywhere: 3-2-1

3 copies of every file you value 2 different media 1 off site

For example, you can have two copies on one drive and a third in the cloud. That way you prevent accidental deletion, bit rot and house fire.

Ragebait or some kid pointing at others ignoring their own toxicity.

Also wrong sub. There are reddit specific subs.

Oh! I didnt know that was OS only! Thanks for lmk!

Additional question: wouldn’t it be cool to have a place where you can only get open source stuff? Obviously there needs to be more to it than this fact i presume but its a start.

Thanks for adding your experience! And congrats! You‘re a champ.

Thanks for elaborating a bit. I opted against the password app since I wanted to diversify services. My nextcloud is a bit finnicky at times and wants to be updated before you can proceed with stuff. Having no access to my passwords in that moment would be harsh. So I opted for vaultwarden and it even has firefox integration, cli integration and a desktop app for linux (dunno about windows, honestly). I‘m not sure if it was a bad idea to put NC‘s database on spinning discs though. Maybe that was stupid.

As you can see, very much a WIP as well. I feel like we need some kind of place to accumulate iCloud -> NC expats. A lot of good could be done there.

I‘m on matrix as well but i‘m not proficient yet. My wife is still on whatsapp so I need to be patient. We have gotten rid of twitter and reddit which I count as a win.

What other projects do you have? Feel free to send me a dm with your matrix username if you want to keep in touch about this.

I‘m also migrating from iCloud (to NC among other things) and its been slow to say the least. Things I struggle with:

• setting up photo alternative with face recognition (recognition app is okayish but not as strong as I‘d like)
• getting whatsapp to somehow backup outside of iCloud
• getting my passwords out of iCloud (you need a mac for that) into vaultwarden
• NC being quite slow now that a couple apps and mid 5 digits of photos are in there, will try memcache soonish

For those who don’t know NC, these things are 1/10 of the stuff that NC is actually good at imo.

How is your experience so far?

Reading the comments is both depressing and uplifting.

Depressing because so many people were in bad shape at some point but uplifting because so many got out and/or are on the way up. Congrats folks!

I never viewed myself as an addict although I have autism and have an obsessive streak = I like to form heavy routines that are not often healthy.

Gave up drinking entirely 6 yrs ago since I was in a bas situation and was drinking a beer every day and it started bothering me. I quit smoking hookah about 2 months ago but I still tell myself its a pause since thats easier for me. I did the same with alcohol.

„Taking a break“ is what worked for me since my mind can’t tell me that I wont make it since there is nothing to „make“. I‘m just taking a break (which now lasts 6 yrs in the case of alcohol). It could have something to do with demand avoidance which can be a problem for autistic people (and others?).

Thanks for reading my ramble and have a nice day.

It’s hilarious. Reminds me of some people I‘ve met. „Strange“ is pretty accurate. :)

Thats pretty funny! :)

That gave me a chuckle. I‘d probably work with you. :)