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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • A day with no plans where I’m not thinking about the end of my days off. You don’t get it with a week off. Every day you have a thought about how many days left but two week on Wednesday. You’ve done what you want the weekend is still far away and you know the next week I’d more time. Bliss, no need to worry about utilising your time off. Just pure impulse.



  • Im discussing this from the perspective of office which I imagine is very different from some other jobs. I consider this saying of thinking as one of neutrality rather then attempting to actively get somewhere.

    1. If there’s a specific job your looking for, that would be correct. Otherwise just interacting with people in LinkedIn works. I check maybe once a month to tell people how interested I am and to direct them to my email where I’m more active.
    2. Not really. The benefit of having a job and looking is having way more freedom to decline interviews. So you don’t put in effort until you want to and it makes more sense. It feels like you are treated better as well. You are given every convenience when you have to fit things around work. Since getting a job, I have had every time limit for sending in work revoked to get it in around work.
    3. Never tell your coworkers. It’s not worth it. I’ve never heard anyone ever discuss taking interviews other than from past jobs. Closest I’ve got is “you’ll be the first to know if I take a new job”. You can take time off for interviews if needed. Or schedule them around lunch. As I said above. They give every luxury to work around a work schedule.
    4. You don’t have to tell anyone. If people ask it can be extremely simple. Dentist, helping someone with a move. Mental health day. Just normal stuff. Realistically, people should not ask.



  • I’m approaching this as a “stupid brain won’t do what I want” situation as I used to eat the double portion also. My work around was to cook out of sync to what I ate. This meant I didn’t need to worry about what I was eating “now” because everything I cooked was for later. So as an example, I would cook some chilli, but that day I would be eating some curry that was already sitting in the fridge. If you are wondering how to start the cycle, the simplest solution to avoid your cravings messing it up is to cook and then order takeout somewhere so you don’t eat it any of it.

    It could be that the improvising is getting in the way. Does this mean you don’t know what to cook until you do?



  • Ilflish@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlSo, on pronouns.
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    Pronouns are just your preference for what you should be referred to. If you don’t provide them people will assume. The logic is that if only people who want to use specific pronouns suggest them, you are essentially outing yourself so even if you associate with your birth pronouns, it’s polite to present them so it’s less awkward for others.

    The actual use is more awkward. The expected use is that you use it when the person in question is discussed but a pronoun isn’t really used unless that person is not around so again it seems to just be a polite way to present yourself.

    For added context a good use case of announcing pronouns would be a research paper where someone would be described to another person Edit: Ive been made aware about another obvious use case. Talking to people online where you might not have a way to identify any other way


  • No tears for a long ass time but I basically had a no-tear cry when I realized I was struggling so hard to keep up with cleaning, cooking and excercise mentally which is literally what nearly all adults do and many do it on autopilot. Made me feel like such a child.

    I was smart enough to recognize that was just imposter syndrome by the next day but it hit hard at the time





  • I’m not going to be fully optimistic, I’ve struggled to get one community active and can feel myself slowly giving up. I moved from Reddit using the website as 80% image sharing and 20% discussion and it feel like Lemmy’s content is 20% image sharing and 80% discussion so it’s feeling rough



  • Diets are all a mental Issue.

    I’m half way to my overall goal, I’ve been fat all my life. It’s not until I genuinely though I should lose weight that I put in the time to figure out my shortcomings with dieting and to stick to my activities.

    If a diet overwhelms you slow down. If something fails, figure out why it’s not working. DON’T ASSUME! My stupid ass thought I had mental mental reactions to not eating takeout. Turns out during my casual diet attempts I was eating like 800 calories a day.

    I stopped attempting to jog, now I’ve been going on daily walks for the past 3 months

    I stopped trying to curb my impulses. Now Ive learnt about nutrition and the basics of the calories I eat, I order take out conscious of my intake

    Literally the only issue I’ve had is stressing about how much stuff to keep on top of and most of my decisions for my diet are based on reducing it (quick meals, minimal cleaning, keeping to routines)