Much the same for us. The toxic attitudes here in Appalachia are shocking. We’ve sure tried to give back and make ties, but authentic ones have been exceedingly rare. Something awful in the zeitgeist here now that makes it nigh impossible for folks to get along for the simplest tasks/clubs/gatherings.
Look into the term Kayfabe and how it relates to the rhetoric of Trump. There are several worthwhile analyses. Here is one such article:
https://www.thedailybeast.com/what-trump-learned-about-manipulation-from-pal-vince-mcmahon