I don’t. On safari iOS and chrome on MacBook I click the three dots and see this:

There’s only the option to block or report, not remove or ban. I tried it on more than one comment. Interestingly I am given ban and remove options on the Lemmios app:

These are using the same account, viewing the same thread on the same community. Maybe it’s a lemmy.world problem?

Damn it. Alt account here I come. Thanks again!

I thought they were coming at me a bit hard, they just wanted to argue with (and insult) me about anything they could. But tbh I can be a bit sensitive so I held off banning them for longer than I might have done if another user reported them for the same thing. Thank you for the reassurance that I wasn’t being reactionary because my feelings were hurt.

I don’t know what I’m missing but I can’t see options to delete/ban while browsing. I usually browse from IOS apps and open lemmy in my phone browser to mod but I used my laptop for this and still couldn’t see it. Also, I’m only given the option to ban for a set number of days, there’s no permaban option. Do I just put a high 4 digit number in?

I will definitely join the mod support you mentioned, and again, thank you for your help!

Thank you for that! I don’t understand all of those terms but I got the gist! For what my opinion is worth, I think blocking a user as a mod should only block them from communities you don’t moderate. Or moderators should be advised to create separate mod/user accounts.

Do you know what happens if someone I’ve previously blocked, then posts to a community I moderate? I was a user before I was a mod and blocked unpleasant people. Could they be making posts or commenting on threads within my communities and I’m not even seeing them? That really interferes with my ability to mod.

I haven’t modded on another site before and I was starting to wonder how people do it! When I initially tried to ban the user I was only offered the option to block them, presumably because no one had reported their comments. That prevented me from seeing the comments that needed to be deleted. I had to unblock the user, report their comments myself (from my mod account, reporting them to me) and then delete the rule breaking comments and ban them.

For the sake of transparency I’d rather not use a different account to comment on posts in my communities, but if I have to then so be it. I’ll use the same username on a different instance. I feel like I should be able to delete comments or ban subscribers while browsing posts from my mod account though. Reporting comments to myself seem ridiculously inefficient.

Thanks for your suggestion!

I started a community !downtherabbithole for this kinda thing but written content isn’t as easy to find as videos unfortunately. I’m like you and much prefer reading to watching. There’s at least one text link there that’s an interesting read. I think there’s a long-form community on lemmy too, that might scratch an itch?

I was 21 when I was diagnosed, symptoms started at 18. I was told I’d never be able to work, that I’d never have children, and I’d be lucky to see 30. I went to an irl support group and had to sit through a 55 year old woman sobbing because she needed to take early retirement and she really liked her job. At the time it felt so utterly minuscule compared to the loss I was grieving it just made me angry. I was angry a lot when I was younger. I’m 37 now so I beat the odds and I’ve learnt to live with the unfairness of it - and to accept that people like that 55 year old woman are perfectly entitled to grieve for their loss. Suffering is subjective, and if that’s the worst thing that ever happened to that woman, it’s terrible for her.

RE the pain… MEDICAL CANNABIS. I’m in the UK and it’s only recently been made legal for medical purposes. You can’t get it on the NHS though, I have to pay privately and without a job that’s really hard. But it’s worth the sacrifice - my life has improved dramatically in the year I’ve been taking it. I was on a huge dose of gabapentin (sister drug to lyrica) 600mg at 8am, 12pm, 4pm and 900mg at 8pm. Plus NSAIDs, immune modulating drugs, benzodiazepines, amitriptyline, and 3 different opioids. I’ve reduced those drugs by about a third since I started medical cannabis and my pain is better than I can ever remember.

Hope the lumbar puncture goes well - it’s not as bad as it sounds, promise! The bit of back pain you can get afterward is just like period cramps - a hot water bottle will help 🙂

I’m sorry to hear that. As someone who’s been on prednisolone since 2008 without pause, I truly hope IVIg is available for you (it wasn’t suitable for me). I have a whole bunch of rare incurable illnesses, if you need a stranger to talk to feel free to message me. It can be a lonely journey, I’m happy to help if I can.

I’ve been there. It’s such a relief to finally have an official diagnosis, you feel strangely happy when you eventually get it. Just a little word of caution - if it’s an incurable condition there’s a bit of a dip after the initial “happiness”. It’s still better to have a diagnosis than not, but it can feel a bit anticlimactic. I’m wishing you well!

He was “transcribing” the messages I supposedly sent him. Really sick stuff.

There was a kid, maybe 14 or 15 who complained about his mum and sister in r/parentsarefuckingstupid or a similar sub. He didn’t mention being autistic in the post but it was pretty clear - it was his behaviour and response which was inappropriate, not his mum’s. Having grown up with an autistic brother his reaction was very familiar to me. I tried to give him some tips to help him avoid conflict and smooth the situation over - “apologise even if you don’t mean it right now, it’s the easiest way of getting your game back tonight. In future don’t raise your voice to your sister even if she’s shouting. Remove yourself to your bedroom to calm down. Ask to speak to your mum alone to explain your side of the argument. Etc” pretty benign advice that wasn’t judgemental or insulting in anyway. I put a decent amount of time into writing my response in a way that was constructive and helpful from his perspective. I felt pretty good about myself afterwards, like I’d done my good deed for the day.

The kid went absolutely psycho. He was writing comments and immediately deleting them, then saying I was sending him extremely inappropriate sexual messages. He was summoning all the bots he could think of, like the n-word bot to accuse me of racism (I’ve never ever used the n-word). It was so out of left field I was stunned. A couple of people stuck up for me in the comments but it left me really shaken. Who the fuck accuses someone of being a racist pedophile out of nowhere? That boy needs help and it has nothing to do with his autism.

“Everything happens for a reason”

• technically correct, completely unhelpful.

“God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”

• Fuck. Off.

There’s a perfect example of that on my ground news widget today. It’s shows “blind spots” stories that the left and the right are under reporting. Todays under reported story by the left is “Tucker Carlson interviews Andrew Tate”. Of course the left aren’t reporting on these two cretins spreading their hatred. It’s not news, and it doesn’t deserve attention.

True. It’s interesting to read a right leaning perspective and a left leaning one of the same story though.

Ground news is pretty good.

I can only assume that people don’t understand why it was brought in on YouTube and TikTok in the first place because so many people do it when it isn’t remotely necessary. If you make your living posting on social media, then fair enough, I understand you need to fall inline with the rules of the platform. But why the hell would you self censor posts you don’t make money from? Utterly ridiculous.

Everyone should hate Andrew tate because he’s a toxic influence on the world - particularly on boys and young men. Get out of here with your BS.

Needlessly censoring words like sex. It wasn’t necessary on Reddit and it certainly isn’t necessary now.

This was informative and not too technical for a layman. Good work, thank you.

It’s really hard to rank them… Facebook is awful for spreading misinformation and it’s echo chamber effect. I give it bonus shit points for being the turning point for social media - it got almost everyone to use it and everything went down here from there. On the positive side it truly brought people together and it was a great tool for sharing your life with friends and family you might not see or speak to regularly. At least to begin with.

YouTube is shit for giving wackos a platform and it’s alt-right pipeline. How many young men have been influenced by Andrew rate type videos? Joe rogan and he’s ilk are straight up cancer. BUT there are tonnes of really really useful tutorials etc that you couldn’t find before.

TikTok is trash for turning people’s brains to mush, pushing the “main character” narrative and encouraging young people to do all kinds of dangerous, stupid shit. But I think it’s fairly benign compared to the others.

Twitter is just a terrible place. Just a toxic, bullying hellhole. Any redeeming qualities (allowing people living under a dictatorship access to news and to broadcast what’s really going on there, for example) have long been lost since Elon arrived to make everyone’s life worse.

The concept of Reddit is better than the others - you can find your own little community dedicated to the most niche interests. It was pretty easy to just lurk and to block people/subs you didn’t want to see, and I think it helped a lot of people. Reddit the company are shit, but aren’t all companies bastards?

Special shout out to Instagram. It’s seems benign on the surface but I’d be a mistake to underestimate the devastating impact it had on young people’s self esteem. The unrealistic body expectations pushed on young people is awful. But it’s the trad wife/evangelical Christian/quiverful type communities which worry me the most. I can’t begin to imagine how many women and babies have died thanks to the no-contraception, home-birth, no vaccine bullshit. It’s not limited to Instagram of course, but it does seem particularly prevalent there.

They’re the only social media sites I’ve used, so based on my experience I’d say worst to best is:

Twitter Instagram Facebook TikTok YouTube Reddit

But honestly they’re all toxic and this was a depressing exercise.