Can you have this conversation slowly over time? Ask a few questions about their plans, maybe make a suggestion, mention other old parts who have handled planning in a mature way, and don’t make a deal out of it if they don’t want to take your ideas. I’ve found that sometimes you can plant an idea and people will warm up to those ideas and even decide it was their idea. Which is annoying, but gets the job done.

But yeah if you go into this expecting them to change a lifetime of emotional programming, you’re gonna have a bad time.

2 aunts love to pretend everything is fine, they excel doing that on funerals and weddings, then stab you in the back as soon as you’re not within ear distance, either need drama to feel important or have way too much free time.

Okay? If shitty people do shitty things, let it roll off you like water off a duck’s back.

It kinda sounds like you let what other people do affect you deeply. Maybe work on giving fewer fucks about people’s drama and giving more fucks about what’s important to you. I know that’s easy for me to say, but it is an attitude that can be cultivated.

Raw and wriggling!

If I start applying elsewhere, do I even mention this?

When applying to jobs, it’s usually not a good idea to badmouth your former employer. No matter how true your statements are it can come across as you being whiny and having a bad attitude. It sucks that we have to lie like this but it’s not like employers are totally honest with us so turnabout is fair play.

Anyway come up with something ambitious-sounding like you wanted to contribute more/in different ways, you wanted a new challenge, etc. Make it sound like you’re excited for the new job, not fleeing the old one. Save telling the truth for anonymous online forums and friends.

I understand that you might want to run your own JavaScript and not others’ JavaScript, but I had a brief laugh at listing “no JavaScript” and “MOAR JAVASCRIPT” together.

i think that a lot of the value of art comes from the effort.

Many things that we do are only worthwhile because of the difficulty.

I think this is one of the biggest disconnects between people who create art and people who don’t (me). I don’t understand this sentiment at all. I don’t care how much effort a piece of art took or what the process was, I care about the output. But I know lots of people who create art and this stuff about the process and difficulty really seems to matter to them. Which is fine, they are entitled to like what they like, but I just don’t get it.

I don’t like AI art because it steals from artists and looks like crap, but the fact that it’s easy doesn’t matter to me.

I wonder if this is part of the disconnect between artists and AI boosters (I am neither).

Lots of good answers here. You might want to read up on Existentialism, a line of philosophy grappling with exactly this problem. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existentialism

Oh I’m married so 1) the bar to get laid is lower 2) there’s a ceiling on the amount of poon I can land in a week. Really frees me up to do important things like fart around on Lemmy.

Chase poontang all day every day. Not even joking, I know myself.

I mean, a lot of “chasing” would be working out, eating healthy, and earning money, but I know why I’d do those things.

Zoltan!

Bold answer. I respect that.

Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or 100 duck-sized horses?

My wife is like this. I just set her up with Chrome’s password manager despite the fact that I’m a Firefox and Bitwarden user. Works in Chrome, on Android, and on iOS - she doesn’t have to use Chrome on iOS, you just have to install Chrome and set it as the iOS password manager and it still works with all apps and Safari. She doesn’t care if Google has her whole life on file and I’m not paid enough to care for her.

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Oh yeah this has little to do with the original question about why bsky is more popular. This suggestion of “let people write their own algorithms” is for the devs who think algorithms are harmful. They aren’t harmful if you give users the power to choose their own algorithm. Techie people can write the algorithms and non-techie people can choose them. Chances are a few algorithms would eventually become the most popular and very few would be written after that, but the point is you let the users decide instead of the Mastodon devs having to write the algorithms.

And now I realize bsky actually has something like this: Custom Feeds. If I understand correctly, they get around the “running untrusted code” issue by not running the code on bsky servers. Instead whoever wrote the custom feed gets the data from bsky, runs the algorithm on a separate server, then returns the custom feed. Pretty clever. https://docs.bsky.app/docs/starter-templates/custom-feeds

I was thinking along the lines of being given a list of popular algorithms, but if you find an algorithm you like on another instance you can copy it over to your instance. So it is not necessary to write code and nearly nobody would do it, they would just use ones that other people created.

But I realize this is an extremely difficult request so I’m not really serious when I propose it.

But it still won’t put my friend’s popular posts at the top, right? I don’t want to scroll past 20 pictures of people’s dinner and then find out one of my friends got engaged, I want the “I got engaged” post at the top because it’s probably getting the most interaction.

God yes. I used to share Lemmy links until I realized what a horrible UI I’m sending them.

I think people are misunderstanding what I mean by algorithm. An algorithm could show you stuff from people you don’t follow (yuck), but it could also show you popular stuff only from people you follow. That used to be how Facebook did it.

I didn’t say it was a bad thing, I just said it’s one reason Bsky is more popular. People are busy and want algorithms.