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  • I get what you’re saying in terms of “why hide it?” but I think someone with his background belongs in a prison, not in the Senate. And it’s not like fascists haven’t been trying to infiltrate any part of government they can for decades.

    And I simply cannot accept that someone has a nazi logo on their chest for nearly 20 years without learning its origins. That’s absolutely absurd. There’s no way he only found out it was a Nazi symbol this week.

    I can forgive Nazis who had a brush with that kind of interest in their teens. Adults with fully formed brains who engage with Nazi imagery and are willing to shoot civilians for their government are fundamentally not good people. I cannot trust that person doesn’t have something inside them that is inherently antisocial and anathema to just society. In my personal experience, Nazis never reform, they simply learn to be quieter. If it’s even possible to be a reformed Nazi, they certainly shouldn’t be in government.

    It looks like he’ll win the primary regardless. My opinion is ultimately irrelevant.










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    Let’s say then, obviously, yes, a lot of the people who people who exclusively date particular ethnicities are doing so for bigoted reasons, demonstrating poor introspection, having their preferences dictated by bigotry and propaganda.

    Doesn’t it stand to reason that a similar thing could be occurring with cis people who refuse to date trans people? That many of them are simply bigoted and influenced by propaganda, not having thoroughly examined their thought processes around this concept and instead allowed others to dictate their preferences?

    Those many people might benefit from the reframing of that concept to one othering cis people. That is who this post is about.


  • No, actually, I find that’s often not true.

    I’ve found that people who are willing to date some ethnicities but not others often exhibit some level of unexamined bigotry, even if they are not abhorrent racists. But I’ve also seen that if they do have romantic experiences with people of that race, this can change, showing that the attraction wasn’t immutable, but rather based on something unexamined in their heads.

    I think it’s good and healthy to examine what we find attractive and why.


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    Someone who says they want children so they don’t want to date people who don’t want children is someone I feel has done at least a bare minimum of introspection about their desires, goals and interests.

    Someone who says they only date blondes is not someone who I think has done any introspection about their interests.

    Asking people to examine the way they think and why isn’t related to becoming an incel whatsoever. In fact, in my experience, incels are often people who have not really done a lot of introspection into what they find attractive and why, but rather have become obsessed with the idea that they should be having sex and aren’t.

    Would you think someone who says they only date white people is exhibiting this “attraction preference” or are they exhibiting bigotry?


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    Certainly, but being trans isn’t a different sexuality.

    Plenty of cis people put trans people into the “not interested” category without thinking. Or they assume they are cis and lose attraction the moment they find out they are trans, some even acting like this is a deception or betrayal. So obviously they have something in their head about transness that they have actively decided is unattractive.

    There’s the rub.

    And thinking on that, wondering why that is, asking if that is something they truly feel or something someone told them to feel, examining the way our own brains work, is often a useful practice to being kinder and more understanding to and of ourselves and to and of others.