I don’t think you can decide in the abstract and I don’t think there is a one-size-fits all answer. Every pet’s (and person’s) decline is different. You may get to a point where you have to make a decision, but the specifics of that point are always different, and being in the situation is not the same as trying to imagine it.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•How do you raise siblings in a way that they don't hate each other?
8·5 days agoI think two things that are common causes of sibling bad feelings are differences in treatment, and handling of sibling conflicts, both of which can create feelings of unfairness and resentment.
I don’t have prescriptions for those things. Kids are different and necessarily need to be treated differently. But one should be aware of how this can feel unfair to one sibling. And be aware of how your need to end conflicts and restore order can again wind up being unfair to one sibling.
I think the hardest thing is being able to see things from their points of view.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is a singular ZIP File heavier than separated files?
1·6 days agoIf they were asking 10 zipped individually vs a single zip, I didn’t get that, because that’s not what their phrasing actually said. But you might be right, that would make more sense to ask.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is a singular ZIP File heavier than separated files?
313·8 days agoWouldn’t trying it out and seeing how much it saved be about the same amount of work as typing in this question?
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the psychology of people who slam their front doors in apartments everytime they go in or out?
3·9 days agoI’ll just offer one particular situation. I have a door to my kitchen that is metal and glass like a sliding door but swings on a hinge. More mass than a typical wooden door and it swings on the hinge very freely, no resistance to slow it down. So it swings with pretty much the velocity you give it, and it requires a decent amount to make it latch.
Commonly I go in or out with stuff in my hands so I can rarely close it slowly and carefully. I end up giving it a little shove, often with my foot. If you get the force just right, it will latch with out being loud, but it has to be just right. Any less and it doesn’t latch. Any more and it slams pretty loudly. It’s really hard to get right, an not slam it more loudly than you intend. And I’m sensitive to noise so it’s not like I don’t care. But with this particular door it’s hard to avoid.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Older people (30+) online, what would you advise younger generations in regards to life?
2·9 days agoA lot of advice is like medicine. Whether it is good or bad for you depends on what you are or aren’t suffering from
I have no idea about Navidrome, but I completely agree with the gist of this article. Actively choose the music you listen to. When the music you’ve chosen has run out, if you’re not motivated to make another choice, let the music stop and enjoy quiet for a while.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Why do some people try to humanize the wealthy and people in positions of power?
3·13 days agoTolerance and humanization are not the same thing. Understanding that terrible behaviors are human does not mean we must tolerate them.
I use POPFile, open source software that classifies email into whatever categories you set up using a Bayesian algorithm (so you train it). It works as a proxy so it does it when your download email, so not a solution to your inbox filling up unless your can figure out how to run it on the server automatically.
It tags the email with a header and I use Thunderbird filters to move mail to folders for spam, adverts, political spam, and regular inbox.
It’s abandonware but it still works and doesn’t really need any more features IMO.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•You have the option to absolve all of Chair or all of Table for the rest of eternity from the fabric of reality. Which would be easier to live without?
1·19 days agoNo that’s what comes out of the butt.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
2·20 days agoOK, sorry, I misread “I couldn’t resist, and they couldn’t watch me all the time” as meaning you were tickling their feet in front of them and they couldn’t bear to watch.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
5·20 days agoThat’s why the military had never allowed long hair or beards.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's a better way to say "possibly possible" or "necessarily necessary"?
1·20 days agoIf you’re talking about what a person would likely understand from those words, then sure, “It’s possible for me to lift 400 pounds if I became a bodybuilder” would probably not confuse anyone. The grammar isn’t quite right, though, because of the way tense /mood is used, and it sounds wrong. I think OP wanted to add the “possibly” because it sounded wrong even if they didn’t know why wrt grammar. If that’s splitting hairs so be it.
Even saying “I could lift 400 pounds if I became a bodybuilder” would be better.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
4·21 days agoI’m pretty sure you didn’t mean it this way, but was he sitting in a tank that was itself flying in the jet? Because that would be even more awesome.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
5·21 days agoAlso a good evolutionary tool for helping you avoid food poisoning!
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
7·21 days agoTheir baldness makes them extra aerodynamic.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
7·21 days agoLots of autopsies on female cadavers.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the most nonsense thing someone has ever told you?
53·21 days agoIt doesn’t surprise me that you’re getting limited access to your grandkids if you are not respecting their boundaries, that is, their rules. That they are kooky is beside the point.
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's a better way to say "possibly possible" or "necessarily necessary"?
1·21 days agoSimply taking out the possibly to make “It’s possible for me to lift 400 pounds if I became a bodybuilder” does not work. “It’s possible” means right now and does not work with the if part. What’s needed is something like the subjunctive or a tense change.
“It would be possible for me to lift 400 pounds if I became a bodybuilder.”
“It will be possible for me to lift 400 pounds after I became a bodybuilder.”

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