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  • indomara@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhat spider is this ?
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    8 months ago

    I’m from Australia, that looks like a huntsman.

    When I first moved here and saw one I freaked out and begged my husband to catch it. He laughed and said they are good spiders, and very fast so hard to catch anyway.

    That spider lived above the window blinds, and I realised I would have to sweep the dead bugs off the windowsill every few days.

    He definitely became an honoured guest!




  • I have traveled to very conservative countries and have never found the sort of puritanical hand wringing that comes from a certain subset of Americans.

    I say this as an American expat who has lived everywhere from Hawaii to the bible belt, to New York.

    Can you imagine the pain and anxiety you would cause a biological woman who does not look feminine enough for your line of reasoning here?

    You see her in the restroom and act like she doesn’t belong there - maybe you say something, maybe you keep your “discomfort in your vulnerable place” to yourself, but your stupid ideas about what a woman is and how one should look in order to be accepted into a bathroom are hurtful.

    I was in an art class last month with a lovely young woman who has pcos. She is a Sikh woman, and therefore does not remove her facial hair.

    She had a beard that would put a young man to shame, and now it occurs to me that had she been unfortunate enough to be born in America, she would have had to choose between honouring the basic tenets of her religion, or conforming so she is not shunned - or worse, assaulted for using the womens room.

    https://www.learnreligions.com/some-sikh-women-have-facial-hair-2993341









  • Honestly, the rules and laws on divorce are so wild across the country. I was married in California but my husband left after 6 months. I hadn’t see him in 9 or 10 years, had no idea where he was.

    Because I was in the state of Kentucky when I filed, I had to go to a church run “divorce education class” on how to save my marriage and complete a little workbook.

    Completely insane class, I stayed in the back and tried to stay silent, but the teacher forced me to participate and asked some leading question about how I could communicate better with my spouse to prevent a divorce or some shit.

    Told her I had no idea where my spouse was, that he had left after 6 months and that I had to hire a private investigator (and a police officer!) to serve my divorce papers. The whole thing was nuts.