Author is perhaps overly humanizing the CEO while not humanizing all the victims of the health care system enough.
One could write an article that was simply short biographies of everyone who died because of health insurance profits. I imagine, like the wealth to scale page, people would have an emotional journey reading it as it kept going and going.
They’re fine. I keep some stocked in the fridge because friends like them.
I agree with the sentiment but this is an extremely monkey’s paw phrasing.
Not yet. All it takes is one hero
Probably that many people are like exclusively emotion driven. I don’t think we should all be like purely logical Vulcans. Emotions are very fast and can be a good survival tool. Like if you’re waiting for the train and a bear wanders onto the platform, you don’t need to wait to logically evaluate if it’s a threat. Just run.
But people rely on emotions for everything. We all do this. So you have like someone telling you something factual and uncomfortable, and you just reject it.
“Eating meat is bad for the environment and is cruel to animals. We should all eat a lot less meat” makes a lot of people’s emotions flare up. The facts don’t matter. They feel like they’re being insulted, that the other person is a blowhard, blah blah blah.
The oatmeal did a comic about this, actually: https://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe
I think this is why we can’t have nice things.
What is the discomfort? Are you afraid something will happen?
You should probably talk to a professional about this. I am not a professional, alas.
I once has a girl follow up 2 weeks later asking why we didn’t go on a date? I told her that was the first question she asked me and I felt she wasn’t into the conversation.
I do wonder sometimes what they’re thinking. Like, do they think the conversation is going well when I have to keep resuscitating it?
I’m told people have “different communication styles”, which is fine, but “not asking questions and giving really short answers” doesn’t seem like an effective style here. Like, if someone’s chatting you up at the bar and you’re not interested, then giving short answers can make a kind of sense. But in a dating app where you both showed interest? If you’re no longer interested just unmatch.
No class consciousness. Too many tech workers think they’re rugged individuals that can negotiate their own contracts into wealth.
Working for free on nights and weekends to “hit that deadline” is not good. You’re just making the owners rich, and devaluing labor. Even if you own a lot of equity, it’s not as much as the owners.
And then there’s bullshit like return to office mandates and people are like “oh no none of us want to do this but there’s no organized mechanism to resist”
Side note: small talk plays important roles in socializing and is an important skill. Use it to steer the conversation to interesting topics.
No one’s going to be perfect. People are going to be nervous on a first date. Give them a chance.
Conversely, sticking with a relationship too long. Contrary to the above, sometimes you really should call it. If the guy isn’t treating you with respect, you don’t have to keep going. If you realize you never look forward to seeing them, you should probably end it.
Chatting too long before meeting. You’re not a real person to them when you’re just over text. You’re missing body language and tone. You want to meet in person quickly.
The general flow for me is like
If the online chat ends and you haven’t scheduled a date, but you want to, that’s bad. You don’t want to be having a second “hey what’s up?” tinder chat.
If this doesn’t come naturally to you , that’s fine. Just remember with your brain “always ask a question”. You need to give them something to work with.
And a last thought that ended up stranded at the bottom of this post, and I’m writing on my phone so editing is hard:
“But what about people who want to take it slow?” Do you want to date someone who doesn’t want to date? I don’t.
edit: minor error from autocorrect
I have never ever ever wanted to “just be friends” first. I am not looking for a new friend. I have friends. I am looking for intimacy that’s not typically available for friends, and sex.
Furthermore, the timeline and transition points for “just friends” to “dating” are not defined. If I want to kiss now but we’re on a “just friends” track, what do I do? Probably pursue someone who wants what I want, and not spin my wheels hoping the other person will come around
This does not sound like a very common experience.
What is it that makes you uncomfortable? Is it all scenarios? Coffee date? Bar date?
The little old lady next to me says hello and sometimes let’s me know if there’s a package waiting for me.
The people on the other side I don’t know. They don’t seem especially friendly or unfriendly, but I’m happy to live and let live.
I see no need to install an app for what is essentially a web site.
Remember that jury nullification exists. If you’re being asked to convict on something that’s bullshit, you can just say not guilty and the court can’t tell you that you gave the wrong answer.
This is a double edged property. It can be used as easily to shield some guy smoking pot from jail as a hate crime.
Just don’t tell them you’re nullifying because they’ll remove you.
No. I never really used it much. Facebook is bad and everyone should delete it. Staying in touch with friends can be done with email, chat, or federated services.
Big, centrally owned platforms aren’t a good idea.
Reddit did some API nonsense, and that was when I left there. I was already off twitter, and never used facebook stuff.
I need somewhere for my meme and internet highlights supply, and lemmy has been ok so far.
Basic ass Linux mint (xfce desktop) for my desktop. I mostly use it for video games and watching media.
Android for the phone. Gotta have those emulators (though I think you can get them on iPhone now, android is still cheaper).
I should probably do some de-googling though.
Work has us on Macs. They’re… fine. I wouldn’t buy one because they’re expensive and not great for games.
Not my kid, but someone I was dating had a toddler. She was not religious, but her parents were Catholic. She tried to intercept any religious stuff before it took hold in the kid. Firm words were exchanged when the grandmother was telling the kid that her great-grandmother was in “heaven”.
We broke up so I’m not sure how it’s going.
They also told the kid that Santa is basically a fun game people play. It’s not literally true but don’t spoil it for other kids.
I think most people have no understanding of taxes.
I remember a coworker some years ago fully believed we had a flat tax rate. That they just take 20% of your money. I had to explain progressive taxation to him.
We should be investing a lot more in public education.
We could lower taxes on the lower brackets, maybe, but we should be raising taxes that target the wealthy. Fix the “buy borrow die” strategy, too.