southsamurai (he/him/pronoun agnostic)

Alas, I whistle only slightly more tunefully than I sing.

However, I must applaud the perfect application of gallivanting by a fellow ne’er-do-well

Then you posted to the wrong community.

That they don’t rape anything. They mate in the way they’ve evolved to, and that any human calling it rape is a moron.

Also, it is overrated on the plate. Good, but not so good that it merits the insanity some folks apply to it. However! I am still happy for anyone to enjoy it for themselves! I’m talking only about the pop culture side of things where it gets hyped beyond realism.

Ahhhh, there are other birds with bills instead of beaks! But they lack the distinctive feet

I generally enjoy turn based. I like casual stuff I can be interrupted while playing and not be fucked. All the way back to final fantasy.

But my favorite, bar none, is bg3. The immersion level is high for me, the overall gameplay is top end, and the whole d&d world ties the knot

I feel you on exposures :)

Honestly, lemmy/fediverse really does feel like a community to me. There’s a sense of connection across the screen that’s possible. But you’re right, it does feel public rather than private. It is more like talking at a block party, or similar get togethers than chilling with friends at home.

The real key to navigating it as an introvert is that digital communication is very time unsensitive. If I’m low on spoons, I can just hold off on responding for a few hours, and there’s still a connection. Or, it’s perfectly okay to just let it go. It’s fine to let a conversation end without saying goodbye online. That really is a great thing for folks with limited social batteries

Yeah, talking to strangers is difficult, for some people, and it kinda is for me. I’m one of those weird introverts that can be extroverted in some ways some times. My mom used to say I could charm anyone and make friends anywhere when I was a kid. I didn’t do well in groups, and still don’t really like them. But one on one? I get nervous and worry about what can go wrong, but I’m strangely good at it, and always have been.

Since I was in home health for decades, I developed actual skill at smoothing first meetings as well.

But I’m actually an introvert. It takes a lot out of me, and I’d almost always prefer to be alone or just with my closest people (and even that in small groups at most).

Comment chains are right up my alley because of that. I only passively notice user names until my subconscious sees the same ones a good bit, or if it’s a really engaging thread. Comment convos are almost always one on one, engaging with a structured start, but with freedom to really talk if things go there.

Since I’m a long winded sort, and use the fediverse a lot ( retired due to disability, nothing but time), I seem to have met almost all the other heavy users dozens of times, and get along with damn near everyone. I mean, I have had bad experiences with individuals, but on average the frequent flyers are easy to digitally hang with. And, you know, sometimes I’m an asshole, so I can be the bad experience, but I try not to.

Hell, I have to actively ignore user names sometimes, like on the PTB community, so I don’t let personal bias interfere with the purpose of the community because I tend to get along with most of the heavy users, who can also be mods of bigger communities as well. There’s a couple that get raked over the coals there, and deserved it some, but are really just human beings doing their best and having a bad day.

And I think that’s maybe why I spend so much of my time here. It really feels like a community, a digital neighborhood.

I thought I’d been seeing you around less. It really wouldn’t be the same without you :)

Well, generally you’d want to have a couple of interactions in comments before sending a dm, or a fairly lengthy one.

It’s really similar to meatspace tbh. You wouldn’t really give your number to a rando in the checkout line, but if you ended up having a really good conversation, you might ask if they want to exchange numbers. Otherwise, you’d wait until you’d had a few conversations before suggesting a get together.

There’s a degree of vibe reading necessary though. It’s a lot harder for folks that haven’t had a lot of social experience, or have some kind of difficulties reading cues. Unfortunately, you can’t see someone checking their watch or shuffling their feet online, but there’s the benefit that nobody is really obligated to respond the way in person interaction tends to feel s pressure to make a polite exit.

I’d say that as long as you approach it right, even a short interaction is okay to build from via DM for the same reason. If you lead with something making it clear you’re not looking to apply social pressure, the worst that’ll happen is a lack of response 99/100. You know, the usual “hope it’s okay to message, feel free to ignore this if it isn’t” kind of thing.

Good enough :)

How you been?

Overall, it’s easy to find lemmy friends. People that you’ll recognize, have conversations with, come to enjoy talking to on lemmy/the fediverse.

But, like any online community, there’s a barrier to cross if you expect to be friends elsewhere. It’s relatively easy to run across folks that will chat on discord or matrix. Harder to find people willing to deanonymize any more than that.

As an example, I’m on the paranoid end of things. I haven’t given my real name out online since maybe 2003? Ish. Since then there’s exactly two people that have crossed from a forum to a full friend. One was from here, lemmy in specific. The other is my wife now, and even that took a year or so to become a friendship back in the mid aughts where I disclosed more than name and general location.

But! There’s been plenty of people on the fediverse that I consider friends to some degree or another. Folks that, even when we disagree, I respect and look forward to interacting with.

My whole recipe for making friends at all, in any context, applies here. Be open to people. Extend trust carefully, but with hope. Accept people for who they are within a given range of acceptability (I ain’t hanging with a Nazi, as an extreme example). The rest is just staying chill, being yourself, and letting things develop naturally.

It’s kinda funny though. My friend I met here? Feels like I’ve known him forever, but it’s only been over a year and a half or so. He went from this rando in a fun conversation to one of the best friends I’ve ever had. Dude knows my wife’s name, my address, my kid’s name. I’ve sent him pictures of me, and I don’t even do that with relatives (though, in honesty it was a temporary thing because I don’t trust any messaging service enough to not delete such things).

So it’s possible for sure. Thing with friendship is that you can never force it if you want it to be real and last. Online or meatspace.

Neat :)

I’ve never messed with hema, it didn’t get going until well after my body could do such things. But it’s always cool to see gear for it, particularly specific stuff like this

Intended as a rondel trainer in specific, or general dagger?

The recommendations for the Ricoh are solid, I’ve seen pics taken on one, and have snapped a few for the person that owns it. Simple to use, plenty good quality, and not too big to make it practical to carry all the time.

That last one is the real kicker. There’s a saying that gets beat to death in photography of any level: the best camera is the one you have with you. It’s why phone cameras have made so many more pics than is even sane. We carry them almost everywhere, and they’re quick to deploy.

Mind you, any pocket friendly camera from maybe the last ten years or so is going be at least usable. The Ricoh is just one of the more reliable ones and doesn’t sacrifice much in the way of the hardware. You can tell a difference between that and a full size slr with a decent lens, but you can also tell the difference between it and a phone cam.

Edit: I will also say that used is necessary for most people, they ain’t cheap.

Until they burn out, yeah.

We’ve got some in the bathroom that are still chugging along, but we replace everything with led as they fail

Edit: in the house.

Car lights aren’t led because the ones available for my car suck.

I have flashlights that aren’t led, but only some old and cheap ones that never get used.

Ha! Yet another squirrel collaborator plotting with the corvids!

We know what you guys are up to!

Of all time, a single book that’s not part of a series, I still gotta go with Stranger in a Strange Land (Heinlein), or Cat’s Cradle (Vonnegut)

Calvin was always a comic about ADHD

You don’t. Best case, you trick your way into access for a day or so and end up banned again. Seriously, people keep trying to do it and keep failing because they have the resources to fingerprint you even if you jump though a hundred hoops.

Doesn’t matter what you said or why, you’re done

Well, it’s a multi prong issue; there isn’t a single cause, and not everyone shares the same combination of causes.

First is the obvious. Age related eye and coordination issues. As we age, some things don’t keep it up like other traits can. And, worse, age related experience only counters it if the person applies said experience.

Second, you run into issues with the plumbing, as someone said in other comments. The prostate is a hell of an organ. But when it gets swollen, the stream gets sputtery. You also run into user error where you have to hold the thing different than when you’re younger because the elasticity and thickness of skin changes. It’s easier to accidentally apply pressure to the urethra. The typical two or three finger grip can apply more pressure than is good when the skin isn’t as resilient.

Third, the ol’ give-shitter runs down. Spoons, baby. You run out of them. The effort of paying attention just isn’t as bearable, depending on what else is melting your spoons down. Which applies to cleaning up after yourself as well. Which also means that remembering to behave better when you aren’t at home where you’re the person inconvenienced can be a problem.

Now, the answer to all of those is to sit the fuck down, but the folks now into their seventies and eighties had a much less free concept of masculinity. In other words, they were fed the unhealthy concept that doing things the way women do them is inherently unmasculine. That isn’t true for everyone, but actual boomers, and the generation before them have more resistance to sitting down just because they’re men. Boomers less so than their parents, as the actual baby boomers includes the very same people that fought to change such concepts.

You also have plain assholes, but that isn’t a generation thing; there’s assholes that will spray piss everywhere on purpose of all ages, so it isn’t really a factor for this question.

Legit, I had patients back in the day that would resist sitting down to put on pants because they felt it made them lesser. Not less masculine, just less independent. They’d resist canes and walkers for the same reason, accelerating their reliance on mobility aids. That aspect of seat pissing is also a factor, but like just being an asshole, it isn’t purely a generational thing. Plenty of young guys fight against anything other than standing to pee because being able to do so becomes a symbol of physical capability. If you have to sit to pee, you’re fucked is the idea, no matter how false.

I had to lay down the law with my own dad a couple of years ago. Got tired of needing to use the toilet and sitting in piss, or walking in it, or seeing it drip. In his case, he didn’t even realize he was missing, but he still didn’t like the idea. He also got cataract surgery after that and it improved his aim back to an acceptable level when he does stand while peeing.

For real though my fellow men; sit to fucking pee. Splashing toilet water isn’t a good thing, and that’s going to happen no matter what else you do.