Having coffee, smth sweet and a followup cigarrete in the morning makes me happy to be awake. Or kiss goodbyes and hellos.

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    9 months ago

    I always make sure I say “I love you” to family members, when we part. It’s a tiny thing, but you never know when something could happen to either of you.

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      9 months ago

      That’s sweet, Ive only said that to my gf and I cringe at the idea of ever saying that. Saying it to one person is tough enough I can’t imagine saying it to anyone else. That’s a really nice habit to have!

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        9 months ago

        I sadly lost my nan, unexpectedly a while back. It’s a significant comfort to know some of the last words I spoke to her were “I love you both”.

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            9 months ago

            It’s one of those things. I’ve managed to purge the negative feelings now.

            Ironically, I don’t really remember our last interaction, in person. It was pleasant and enjoyable, but so normal as to just blur with other visits. That amuses me quite a bit (so many nice visits I can no longer pick 1 out). My habit of saying “I love you” at the end of every visit helps a lot.

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        9 months ago

        When i started doing this, my other family members were a little weirded out, but now it feels natural to part this way and their response feels natural too. I’m so glad i started.

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        9 months ago

        It took me time to get there, but I say it to my close friends now, because it’s true. I love them, platonically and they deserve to know that. You never know how long it’s been since someone felt loved

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      9 months ago

      Particularly when leaving on bad terms, or in a fight, or just nagging, you would probably forever feel guilt and remorse

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        9 months ago

        I have to start doing this… Saying I love you even when, or especially when, someone did something I did not like…

        “I hated what you just did… It make me feel like crap. Still, I love you.”

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          9 months ago

          This, you should tell yourself as well. Many of us hate ourselves, because of what we did or didn’t do, or how we are, or how we should be.

          Then tell yourself; this was not a nice thing to do, you can do better. But still, i love you :-)