Cheryl Henderson, 65, and Lynn Bisbee, 78, were married on Sept. 20, having live together since 1996.

The pair initially crossed paths through a mutual friend in 1993 and shared a home near Columbia, South Carolina, three years after.

Lynn says she was attracted to Cheryl from their very first meeting. But Cheryl admits she struggled to accept her own sexuality.

Her breakthrough moment came during a therapeutic somatic breathing session in June 2026, when she recognized she’d been “living in a dark prison” and desperately wanted liberation.

Cheryl confessed her feelings to Lynn, who proposed just weeks later. By September, the pair were finally exchanging “I dos.”

Cheryl, a retired therapist said: “It’s been a quick few months after years of waiting, but we’re so happy now. We just got back from our honeymoon and even though we lived together for decades, it feels deeper now.”

Lynn and Cheryl initially connected through a mutual friend at a women’s retreat in 1993 and bonded immediately.

Lynn, who was living in North Carolina at the time, would go on an hour-and-a-half drive to see Cheryl before they eventually moved in together three years later.

Lynn said: “I knew I was attracted to her from when I first saw her, but then we just became friends. We got on so well that I was happy to make these trips, but it soon became pretty arduous so we decided to move in together.”

At the beginning of 2026, Cheryl chose to prioritize her wellbeing, with a physician recommending she explore somatic breathing. The technique involves intentional, conscious breathing to promote bodily relaxation.

During a virtual session, Cheryl envisioned herself trapped inside a dark prison - a vision that helped her recognize she yearned to escape.

Cheryl said: “It was a real awakening for me. I remember after the session I sat by myself on the sofa, just thinking, and after a few hours, I thought to myself ‘I guess I’m gay.’ And then after another hour, I remember thinking ‘I’m f***ing gay!’” I got up and spoke to Lynn and, although I barely remember what I said, I ended it by asking her if she wanted to come to bed with me tonight."

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    Yes, not everyone gets married or lives with a romantic partner.

    DECEMBER 2, 2025 — Newly released estimates from the U.S. Census Bureau’s historical America’s Families and Living Arrangements tables show that fewer than half (47%) of U.S. households in 2025 were married couples — a significant shift from 50 years earlier, when nearly two-thirds (66%) were.

    Among married-couple households, the share with their own children declined over the past half-century. In 1975, more than half (54%) of married-couple households included their own children under age 18; by 2025, that share had declined to about 37%.

    Source

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      1. that’s people as a statistic, it doesn’t indicate changes over an individual’s life
      2. That’s not taking into account their orientation and sexual relationships and living arrangements; and the statistics you’re providing only differentiate between people in marriage and not, and has no distinction between roommates and non-married couple or relatives like siblings or cousins, nor families with children above 18.
      3. Once again, the point I’m making/question I’m asking has been glossed over
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        I’m telling you that there are quite a lot of people who do live with friends. I don’t know why that is confusing to you.

        Personally (and anecdotally), I’ve lived with a close friend for over a decade at this point. We’re not romantically involved, we just enjoy each other’s company and it is expensive to live.

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          does this explain why the closeted one lived the way she did? No. OK. Thanks for the downvote.

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              Usually those people fall into some kind of other family situation. Was she living as an asexual? Was she about as oblivious as a plank of wood? Did the lesbian bring “chums” over? What made this woman live like that?

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                Not everyone has family. Not everyone has sex frequently.

                You’re being intentionally obtuse about this.

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                  🤷

                  Anyway, nice to get frustrated by you on yet another topic. See you again next time

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                    Maybe next time try good faith discussion. You might be surprised.

                    Like, you know everyone reading this thread can tell that you actually have no interest in learning or having your pretend questions answered right?

                    It seems like you think people can’t see right through it.